The light from yonder window

So I got into a discussion with someone about all the drama, and she told me a few home truths. Some I took on board, others I rejected. She's beginning to understand it, which is good, though she certainly hasn't taken sides or anything. We parted on friendly enough terms.

I took my own advice about not trying to alter people's perceptions of their friends, and we danced around the issues before coming to the conclusion that my problem is not about something that happened last year, it's about what's happening now. 

We've agreed to a) agree to disagree and b) to drop the subject. 

The beauty of having it out on my other blog is that people who are "just curious" and "want to give their two cents" can see for themselves what the arguments and issues are. Which means an end to the drip, drip, drip that is fanfic drama because there are no further arguments to make. I'll bury the contentious posts under harmless stuff and it'll soon blow over and be forgotten about. Until the next time.

I guess one of the advantages of it coming out to such a large and different audience is that the false perceptions of me have been exposed and corrected. Never again will any of the people I respect and admire simply take it as read that I'll ban someone for just disagreeing with me. Not after having the discussions we've had in which that lie has been blown out of the water. The old "rename file" thing has also been exposed. I absolutely hate "it's not this, it's that." When the effects are the same, call it what you like but a bucket of water is a bucket of water, and when it gets thrown over you, you're wet! I won't accept "It was  just a small receptacle and you only got a little damp." Getting that truth laid out has led to a bit of peace and quiet, which I'm glad about.

I am very grateful to the kind, friendly people who have pointed me towards a compromise I can live with. Being open about being restrictive may alienate some people, but I can live with that if they can allow me to do it instead of making a huge fuss about it.

That fuss is dying down, and it's beginning to go away, thank goodness.